A famous quote from Chuck Palahniuk is: “Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home… it’s your responsibility to love it, or change it.” The simplest explanation for the quote is that if you don’t like your job, find something to love about it. Otherwise, change your job altogether.
It does sound easier said than done, especially with complex human emotions involved. But it is possible to find joy in what you do.
Here, we will take a look at the top ten ways on how you can find joy in different situations – even with something that you don’t like doing in the first place.
Top 10 Ways to Find Joy Day by Day
You might think that it’s impossible to find joy especially in the direst of situations. But looking for the positive aspect of whatever dilemma it is that you’re facing is a skill that you would have to learn if you don’t want to fall victim to utter sadness or outright depression.
Fortunately, small shifts in your attitude will allow you to see the good in people, the positive in every situation, and joy in everything that you do.
Take a look at the top ten ways on how you can find joy in everything you do:
1. Find joy after a loss.
Unless you have lost an immediate member of the family, you will never really know the grief that people feel when their loved ones die. If you have unfortunately experienced it, losing someone might make you feel that there’s nothing worth living for anymore.
If it’s perfectly fine to let yourself grieve, how can you find joy after a loss?
Give yourself time to heal. If you feel that your life has gone on total chaos mode, bring some order back to it by doing things that feel familiar. Going back to work and keeping yourself busy helps. Deal with your feelings of grief by admitting that you are sad and grieving, but still try to pick up the pieces of your life again.
More importantly, find a support system – people who would listen to you. You might never forget the experience of losing a loved one, but you can find joy in being with other people and going back to doing things that feel familiar. Eventually, you will be able to find joy after a loss.
2. Find joy in reaffirming life.
People who make gratitude journals have it right. Even if nothing seems to be going in the direction that you planned, you can still find something to be happy about. There’s a certain joy felt in reaffirming life. It could be as simple as taking your time to enjoy a cup of coffee outside instead of rushing out the door to go to work.
Enjoying a long, hot bath; communing with nature; feeling lush grass under your bare feet; smelling the roses – these are the littlest ways for you to find joy in reaffirming life.
3. Find joy in giving.
One of the best ways to find joy in what you do is to give back. During the earthquake that shook Japan, the people there taught the world a lesson on how the locals found joy despite the tragedy that the entire country faced. Even if something bad happened to you, remember that there are people who are way worse off.
This means that you can always find room in your heart to give – even if it’s not with material things.
For instance, average earners can still find ways to give back by volunteering their time in shelters, soup kitchens or nursing homes. Practicing random acts of kindness everyday or even the simple act of giving a troubled friend a shoulder to cry on – these are the ways that you can find joy in giving.
4. Find joy in others.
Finding joy in others is all a matter of appreciating all the people in your life. Start with the closest members of your family. When was the last time that you gave your mom a call, or expressed your love to your significant other? When was the last time that you spent some quality bonding time with your kids?
When did you and your friends last hang out? If you have a new neighbor, find ways to say hi or give a bowl of your favorite dish as a welcome gift.
The people who are a constant presence in your life will give you utmost joy, especially once you start spending more and more quality time with them.
5. Find joy in positivity.
A classic story of how you can find joy in positivity is this. A busy mom whose son spilled coffee on her shirt can ruin the entire day with just that one small incident, or simply shrug it off, change her shirt, and still start the day on a positive note. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspect of whatever it is that’s happening in your life, why not look at the brighter side of things?
The minute that you open your eyes in the morning, be thankful because you are breathing, alive, healthy, and able to do the things that you want to do. If you feel down at any point during a busy day at work, take a five minute break outside to just enjoy some peace and quiet.
Turn meditation, yoga, aromatherapy or a simple, hot bath into a personal ritual that you can perform whenever things get too much for you to bear.
6. Find joy in forgiveness.
We all have our sob stories or personal anecdotes which affect that we view life today. If such an experience taught you to be angry at someone and that person does not even have an idea about why you’re so mad, it is only yourself that you are punishing. Instead of wallowing in the past, move on – first by forgiving the person who has erred you, then by forgiving yourself.
Even if that person does not seek your forgiveness, you owe it to yourself to let go of the hurt or anger caused by the other person. If you don’t even remember why you got mad or hurt in the first place, it means that it’s probably over something sill or trivial.
Find joy in forgiveness, and live the rest of your life without any toxic memories dragging you behind.
7. Find joy in the simplest things.
Adults should all take a cue in how kids seem to take joy in even the simplest of things. If you’re a parent, spend as much time as you can with your kids. Crawl on the floor with them, be silly, play pretend princesses, laugh with them – doing these things will make them appreciate you more.
You will also benefit by touching base with the inner child in you, which is something that you should always be joyous about. Just because you’re an adult does not mean that you cannot do childish, silly things and take joy in the simplest things in life.
Finding that inner child in you will allow you to appreciate your kids more, and relive those happier days in your childhood when you were filled with wonder about everything that life has to offer.
8. Find joy in the quiet.
If you live in a big, busy city and work in a noisy office, it’s quite impossible for you to enjoy a lot of quiet time. Whenever you have the chance to enjoy some peace and quiet, savor it. Take your coffee break at a bench in a park where you can simply watch the city go by.
At home, use your bath time to get away from the chaos of the kids and enjoy some me-time. At night, take a few minutes to reflect on how the day was, and what you are looking forward to the most the next morning.
9. Find joy in what you do.
If you love what you’re doing at work, you’d never have to work a day in your life. But what if you belong to that percentage of the population who do not necessarily like the nature of their job? You might want to do something that you really enjoy during your spare time, or simply look for the positive aspect of your job.
You might not necessarily like pushing paper but you do enjoy interacting with your co-workers. You might not like the brunt work of doing spreadsheets but love the results when all the figures are balanced out.
For every person, there would be certain aspects of their job that they like and dislike – this is perfectly normal. In order to find joy in what you do, always look at the positive aspect of things.
10. Find joy in the challenges as well.
Finally, nobody’s life is perfect. If one part of your life is going well, another aspect could be going down the drain. You will not learn how to appreciate the joyous moments without the challenges that go along with it – so learn how to find joy in the problems as well.
Of course, you will feel stressed out while looking for a solution, but once you do and are able to handle the problem, you would wonder why you got tied up in a knot over it in the first place.
As you can see, there are plenty of ways for you to find joy in whatever it is that you are doing. Be it a job that you don’t necessarily like, a huge life trial, or the loss of a loved one, you can always learn to look at the brighter side of things in order to discover the joy that’s hidden there.
Good luck in your quest to find joy in the things that you do.
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