It’s impossible not to be too hard on yourself every now and then: going through a breakup, having financial problems or just being surrounded by people who don’t appreciate you for what you are. You’ve heard thousands of motivational speeches and don’t really think they could work for you, which is why feeling down is becoming more of a normality to you.
We thought of 10 inexpensive ways to boost your confidence and stand up to anyone who’s about to ruin your day. Try these ideas and you’ll feel a lot better guaranteed!
1. Make a list
And we’re not even kidding! Take a piece of paper and a pen and write down all the things you like about yourself, from your best features to that quirkiness not everybody can see. Remember that time when you surprised yourself by doing something out of your comfort zone, the last time you fell in love, a great party you’ve been to.
Whether you are shy or courageous, you have to embrace the situation! Not only you’ll feel better, but you’ll also get to know yourself a lot better.
2. Stay away from negative people
If somebody keeps saying negative things about you: a friend that keeps saying you look fat, a boss who never notices your hard work, a family that doesn’t appreciate you at all or an entourage that only wants you for your money, ability to throw parties and so on.
These people have got to go! Of course, you can’t stay away from your family forever, but you can at least see them less often. As the proverb says, learn how to enjoy your own company and you’ll never feel alone again!
3. Dress nicely or on the contrary
Some people need a complete makeover to overcome problems in their lives, while others just feel better in their pajamas. Either way, go for it! Get a new haircut or just a messy bun, turn up the music and start dancing!
Find that one thing that releases the inner goofball and don’t be afraid to let loose! A new you doesn’t necessarily mean new clothes, but if that helps, why not go for it? It might help to sort through all your clothes and put on something you haven’t worn in years!
4. Do a good deed
Help a neighbor, give money to a homeless person, offer food and you’ll immediately feel better! There is something about giving that makes us feel appreciated and meaningful: brightening up someone’s day fills us with love and compassion, so help others to help yourself! We are all good people at heart!
You can go even further and babysit for a friend, walk their dog, bake a pie for someone, say thank you to someone who’s helped you a lot! Just be kind to other people and you’ll also have something to gain!
5. Set small goals and achieve them
OK, you’re probably dealing with a breakup, debt or just insecure about your life. It will be a lot easier to overcome any problems if you just set small goals and reward yourself for every little achievement. Don’t treat yourself to candy or you might put on a lot of weight. How about a nice badge instead? Also, keeping a diary could help a lot!
Start with little things: putting on makeup and dressing up for work, buying a new book, taking an online class, taking up a DIY project, connecting with long lost friends, calling your mom.
Reach out to the most important people in your life and confess all your problems. This will lift a heavy weight off your chest immediately! After this, it’s time to think bigger and bigger: getting a new job maybe, moving someplace else, and the list goes on. You are the only one who can boost your confidence and put you back on your feet.
6. Listen to your childhood playlist again
Remember when everything was nice and easy? And you only had to worry about what you’re going to do on your summer vacation and whether that crush of yours is ever thinking of you? All is not lost: listen to your childhood playlist on YouTube and take a short walk down memory lane.
Think about the kind of kid you were, about how every little thing used to be so exciting! We are all kids at heart, so this shouldn’t be difficult! If you had a difficult childhood, go back to a place and time when you were happy. The happiest you’ve ever been.
7. Watch a silly movie
Don’t say no to this! Here. At dontpayfull.com we have a few confidence-boosting movies that we like to revisit every now and then: The Mask, Father of the Bride, Cheaper by the Dozen and pretty much any Steve Martin movie. Go for a comedy and not a drama. We want you to laugh again, not start crying.
Plus, you can ask your friends to come over and watch it with you. Although everything may seem dark now, there is a whole world out there that needs to be discovered! There’s laughter and goofiness, there are funny people worth meeting and friends who can’t wait to help you out! Come on, cheer up!
8. Baking, cooking, and cleaning?
All of the above! It’s time to experiment! And we don’t mean cook because you need to or clean the house because you kind of have to. No! We mean try a new recipe, reorganize your bedroom, and redecorate your home and so on. No expectations, just play with your ideas, and see what happens. This will make you see things in a different light.
Life is just like a messy bedroom: clean it and everyone will want to have it!
Also, releasing your creative inner beast is never a bad idea! Also, you may want to look into crafting, makeup tutorials, look up travel destinations, replace your old car etc. make a change in your life today, rearrange the things that bothered you and everything will look way clearer.
9. Get a pet
The adoption center is waiting for you and so are thousands of cute pets: cats, puppies, birds and so on. Take one or two home with you, play together and learn how to be responsible for another being. Plus, no one can watch cat videos and remain completely unchanged after that, right? Plus, animals can feel our pain, anger, sadness or happiness.
Believe it or not, most of them will try to comfort you, so get ready for some serious drooling, wet noses, fluffiness and endless love.
Yes, there are so many people who need your help! It really doesn’t matter where you choose to advertise: a cantina, an adoption center, a women’s shelter, an elderly home. All these people need company more than anything else and so do you at this point!
Sharing your life experience and troubles with someone who’s clearly less fortunate than you will make you appreciate more the things you have. Plus, being upset over a breakup when there are homeless people who don’t have a roof above their heads seems kind of selfish now, doesn’t it?
Learn how to care more about your independence and identity than for people who probably never got the real you. Don’t dismiss these ideas until you’ve tried them. There are things in life that seem heart breaking, but you are strong enough to overcome them, so don’t give up easily.
Life is a beautiful thing and it’s up to us to make the best of it! If stress is getting the best of you, take a short vacation to recharge your batteries. Try not to ignore this situation or you might get depressed and aggravate the situation. In any case, please ask for help from your friends, family, or a professional.
Visit The Help Line Center if you have no one to talk to and please reach out to someone you love. We all matter, every single one of us!